Digital Bowerbird

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“ Being the one in control of what moves me, what I feel obligated by, and what attachments I have to fleeting experiences is not an authority that I’m willing to concede to the arbitrary whims of an app on my mobile phone. ”

“ So sometimes the first thing I focus in is, like, a sale at West Elm, and sometimes it’s a stressful situation at work. But really, what emergency would be happening over email. So many fake emergencies! All it takes is one real emergency to remind you how many fake emergencies you have. ”

“ If you live by values, and respect yourself for doing so, you’ll begin projecting something people around you will notice. It’s the energy of not seeking external praise or validation, not glowing from a hundred likes on your latest Facebook post. It is, instead, looking only for validation from within. Are you living with integrity, according to your values, even if you’ve never shared them with anyone else? If you live or die by your values, letting them be a key gauge of success, the world starts unfolding in a beautiful way. You derive happiness from yourself. You’re more even throughout the day. ”

“ Growth is painful. Change is painful.But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong. ”

—    Mandy Hale   (via thatkindofwoman)

(via nickyxlei)


1. A man can not save you. This was something that I never understood as a teen and something I struggle to not forget as an adult. Other people can not solve the problems of ourselves. Love does not cure all, is not a balm, is not the only solution. 

2. But still, I love and continue to love the non-verbal components of Rae and Finn’s relationship on My Mad Fat Diary. Finn touches Rae’s body, this body that society has told her is wrong. This body that she has scarred and burned to release the feelings kept bottled up inside, deteriorating her very soul. 

3. Sometimes, self-hatred can run so deep that we mistrust the people who see our beauty and light. If the darkness envelops everything you do and see and understand about yourself and the world, a lie is hearing you have worth. When I was 16, 17, 18, I used to turn down any young man that hit on me. My friends said I had high standards. But inside, I thought: There must be something wrong with him to want me. 

4. Female sexuality is real. It is hidden and ridiculed and misunderstood. It exists in a myriad of different ways. It can mean a lot to some or nothing at all. We are different, complex, more than you can ever imagine. 

Rae’s articulation of what she wants is a strong counter to her emotional vulnerability. A person can be “damaged” and still want. A woman can exist outside of standards of beauty and body and still want. Wanting does not disappear because of size. 

And Rae wants in a way that is rare on screen. She wants openly and vocally and proudly. I love that Rae says, “I want him to go down on me for so long that he has to evolve gills,” and it’s funny, but not a joke. She wants that intimacy and she wants it now and she doesn’t want it to stop. 

“ It is a mockery of careerism made all the more salient by Brief’s residence in St Louis - where success, by definition, is supposed to be impossible. To “succeed”, one is supposed to leave a city like St Louis - a Middle-American city associated with poverty and crime. To “succeed” is to embody the definition of contemporary success: sanctioned, sanitised, solvent. ”


Expensive Cities Are Killing Creativity

This article resonated with me in many ways, but the above passage resonated sharply. Growing up in South East Queensland, it was very clear in my mind that to achieve what I considered success, I had to leave and put myself as far away from my home town as I could. While I didn’t move as far as I could have, I bypassed the traditional trajectory to Brisbane. At the time I felt, truth be told, it was below me. That success, the success I thought I wanted, would never be found in “Brisbane”. It was where everyone moved after high school. Long story short, I moved to Sydney. The city ate me up and spat me out deflated and 3.5 years later I found myself in "Brisbane". But had I not been in "Brisbane"and frankly grown up a lot, I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to grasp the success I’d been looking for all along. Now, almost two years in to what I still maintain is the best job I’ve ever had, the success I thought I wanted those many years ago growing up in South East Queensland couldn’t be further from my notions of success now. In summary, sometimes I guess you don’t have to leave a city like St Louis, or Brisbane, or [insert your home town here] to “succeed” (but sometimes leaving, even briefly, gives you the insight you need to grow and to be almost contradictory to my own words, I’m a believer in leaving to grow, explore and discover).  

“ People who believe in the cult of “superfoods”, of edible stuff that supposedly behaves like medicine, might as well believe that the Earth is held up by giant turtles. It’s an expression of narcissism through food, of picky eating habits poorly disguised by pseudo-science. If you want proof of how vacuous it all is, search the web for recipes for superfood pizza, peanut butter cookies and burgers. They’re all out there. When a burger can be denoted a superfood the game is definitely up. ”

“ It takes a certain level of maturity to know that love does not always equate with a healthy relationship. ”

—    Natasha Eubanks (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

“ Plenty of other cities in the United States and abroad are, of course, interesting and beautiful, but I moved to LA due to its singular pre-apocalyptic strangeness. It seems equally baffled and baffling, with urban and suburban and wilderness existing in fantastic chaos just inches away from one another. There’s no center to L.A, and in many ways it’s kind of a fantastically confused Petri dish of an anti-city. If you’re in New York, Brussels, London or Milan, you’re surrounded by a world that has been subdued and overseen by humans for centuries, sometimes for millennia. They’re stable cities; and when you’re in an older city you feel a sense of safety, as if you’re in a city that’s been, and being, well looked after. You feel like most well-established and conventional cities know what they’re doing. LA, on the other hand, is constantly changing and always seemingly an inch away from some sort of benign collapse. ”


This doesn’t look like much but my god it was delicious - it was kinda my take on spanakopita. Recently I was in Byron bay Australia eating the freshest food available and my little cousins made spanakopita/spinach pie with mint and it was so good I had to make one similar

FILO/Phyllo pastry - 1 roll
5 eggs
4 tablespoons Parmesan
3-4 cups baby spinach
1 garlic
1/2 brown onion
Chilli spice
3/4 tablespoon fresh chopped dill
3 Tablespoons salted melted butter
1/2 cup peas
400 grams Greek feta - crumbled
200 grams - fresh ricotta
1 tablespoon freshly chopped mint

Preheat oven to 400 (fahrenheit)
In a lined baking dish - (around 10x7)
Carefully lay 1 Filo/phyllo pastry slice then spread melted butter and add another one keep going until you have used almost have of the FILO pastry.

In a large separate bowl, chop finely- spinach, onion, mint, dill, garlic- combine together with a dash of olive oil and set aside

In a different bowl, using a fork blend the eggs together, add all the cheeses, and keep mixing with the fork, and some cracked pepper and chili (less than 1/4 teaspoon)

Once well combined add to the spinach mix, then mix in peas.

Lay some of the mixture onto the FILO pastry then repeats another layer of pastry and butter before spreading more mixture- keep doing this until the mixture is finished, then lay the remaining FILO pastry, spread the remaining butter on top and place in oven for 40mins or so - the too should be just turning golden.